So, not everything worked out quite the way you planned. You are bored with your partner and you are feeling restless in your job. Here are three tips to get you feeling like your happy self again.
1. See change as inevitable
When you wake up one day and realise that you’re bored at your job or that you and your boyfriend aren’t having as much fun as you used to, don’t be shocked. Instead, remember that needs and desires constantly evolve — and that’s completely normal.
2. Always have a plan B
Often, when something doesn’t work out, an even better opportunity arises. To practise seeing the possibilities in life, start by making small changes — with small risks — in your everyday routines. Experiment with the way you wear your hair; order a tuna sandwich if you always get the chicken; or go for a morning walk outdoors instead of rushing to the gym. Doing these small things differently makes you realise that you do have plenty of options — in every area of your life.
3. Separate the facts from fiction
Instead of freaking out whenever you hear bad news — your boss is unhappy with your latest report, your best friend is moving — calmly deconstruct the situation using this exercise: label one side of a piece of paper “facts” and the other one “fiction”. List all the fictions, which are based on fears and unfounded predictions, then list the facts, which all deal with objective info. When you’re finished, don’t allow yourself to turn the page back over. Keeping your attention focused on what’s real, rather than what might be, will help prevent unnecessary anxiety.
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